When it comes to sending the perfect message on an online dating site, many men seem to have trouble with it. Sometimes we are so preoccupied with how beautiful a woman is and how quickly we want to be the one to catch her attention, that we will literally send her anything just to make sure that she knows we exist. The problem is that women receive countless messages from men on dating sites, and more often than not, they are all the same type of message. If you want to impress a woman so that you can potentially hook up with her, you have to start by figuring out how to send the perfect message.
Make Your Introduction Count
“Make an impressive introduction”
What many men fail to include when trying to write the perfect message is a well thought out introduction. If you’re the type of guy to just ramble about yourself and then tell women to ask you questions, you’re going out sending the perfect message all wrong. Women do not like to be rambled at, and they certainly don’t like to be left to ask all the questions. If you really want to get a response back from her, you need to change how you approach her.
You can start by introducing yourself. Tell her your name and explain to her why you’re messaging her. Do not say something like, “I’m Tom and I’m messaging you because I think you’re beautiful.” She’s probably received messages like that several times. Instead, you should try for something similar to, “Hello, I’m Tom. Although I think you are stunning beautiful, the main reason I’m messaging you is because of your interest in rock climbing. I also enjoy rock climbing and wanted to know what you think about…” This type of message allows you to introduce yourself. It also allows you to compliment her, and to show her that you’ve actually read her profile.
Don’t Startle Her
“Try to be patient”
Another thing you want your message to do is show her that you are sane and can handle moving at a slow pace. Far too many times, men have lost out on hooking up with a hot women because they came on too strong. Do not send her a message asking her if you can take her out the following weekend without even chatting with her for a little while. She doesn’t know you and she will obviously be uncomfortable with your invitation.
When you want to send a message about going on a date with her, you should start by asking if you she would be comfortable messaging you Skype if the two of you discover that you enjoy interacting on the dating website you’re using. Tell her that you’ll be more than happy to take her number if she wants to give it to you, but that you don’t want to come on too strong because you really would like to get to know her. She’ll definitely be flattered, and she’ll probably end up giving you her number anyway.
Sending the perfect message doesn’t have to be difficult. All it requires is for you to take your time and think about what to send before you send it.