“Ask her if she is having any problem”
It doesn’t take much for a guy to get off. Find a hole, insert penis, win. This is why the concept of not enjoying sex with a woman might seem a little weird. Not all guys are focused only on how their dick feels and actually require some participation from their partner in order to really get off. If you’re that kind of guy, sleeping with a woman that only lays there while you pump away can really take the edge off sex. If that’s the case, you need to decide whether to dump her or to try and get her more interested in having fun while you’re in bed.
Figure Out What You Don’t Like
If your orgasms are less awesome than they should be with a partner, the first step is to figure out what exactly she does (or doesn’t do) that you don’t like. If she refuses to make noises or make sounds, note it. Don’t use this as an excuse to pick apart everything that irritates you about her. Keep it to the bedroom and then store it for a discussion you’ll have later.
Talk About It
“Talk openly about your desires”
One of the easiest ways to fix problems in bed is to talk about them. A lot of people won’t do this because they’re afraid feelings might be hurt. It’s better to be honest than to pretend that things are okay. Once you’ve pinpointed what it is about her performance in bed that you find least enjoyable, bring it up in a discussion. Don’t make the conversation an attack on her. Instead, focus on how important it is to have BOTH your sexual desires met. Invite her to discuss things that she wishes you would / won’t do in the sack. This way you can both get a good idea about how you’re pleasing each other and how you aren’t.
Share Your Fantasies
It can be easy to talk about sex when you’re both sharing. Try encouraging her to share her fantasies with you while you do the same. Maybe she wants you talk really dirty to her when you’re going at it. Maybe you want her to tie you up and smack you around. A lot of people keep quiet about what really turns them on because they’re afraid of what their partners will think. Suppressing your desires is just going to leave you feeling unsatisfied during sex. What’s lacking in the sack can be remedied by discovering what both of you really want. And once you’re both on the same page, you can start having awesome sexy time instead of sex that’s hardly worth noting.
Evaluate Sex over the Relationship
How important is sex to you? If the answer is very, it might just be time for you to bail and look for another partner. If you’ve talked to her about what’s lacking in the bedroom and nothing has changed, she might consider sex as something unimportant. If you both feel very differently about sex, chances are you’re not going to click on other levels, either.