One of the most obnoxious things about casual dating sites is when you send a bunch of messages, but don’t get any back. Believe us, we know that pain, and we’ve dealt with the exact same thing before.
Remember your competition.
When you sign on to a casual dating site, you’re competing against dozens of other men for just one woman, and you’re doing the same thing every single time you send a message.
These women see hundreds of messages, sometimes hundreds of messages per day, while they’re on these sites. If you want to stand out from the crowd, you need to do something different to make her see that you’re not like all those other guys—and just saying “I’m not like all those other guys” is definitely not going to cut it.
You need to differentiate yourself.
Remember that this doesn’t mean you have to be weird, kooky, or quirky. You’re not looking to be some kind of strange bloke that gets her attention by being loony.
You want to stand out in an understated, but entirely palpable way. How to do that exactly is one of our best casual dating tactics, and it will help in all of your ventures.
Your blank profile page does not make you look mysterious.
We’ve seen this one over and over—men think that they need to stand out, so they’ll leave their profile page blank. This doesn’t work. All it does is make a woman think that you’re a spambot who’s messaging thousands of women with trash.
Filling out your profile completely is very important. Women are far more likely to respond to men who have a completely full profile, so don’t skimp when it comes to this step.
Stand out in the right ways.
You shouldn’t make your profile all about sex. Yes, it’s very unique to simply make it state “I love breasts” on every line over and over again, but it’s not going to help any woman choose you over someone else. They’re just going to think you’re infantile.
A better way to appeal to women is to talk about your hobbies and interests. No, this isn’t as counterintuitive as you might think. Even if you’re just meeting for a one-time thing, women like to know that you’re a real person who would be fun to spend time with.
Don’t expect too much.
If you send out a message that just says, “hi,” you’re not going to get a response. No woman is going to think your profile is so great that she’ll respond to a message like that.
Also, don’t send out five rambling paragraphs and expect her to stay awake. These women are in it for the short term. They want to see an interesting message, they want to see that you’re a real person, and they want to see that you’re someone they wouldn’t mind spending one or two dates with before you hook up.
If you want to become a player, you’ve got to find the sweet spot. Two to three sentences that are specifically about this woman—that’s the best ratio you can put together.
Make it about her.
You MUST put in something from her profile. Even if it seems obvious, it’s the best way to make sure she won’t see you as a guy who mass-messages women from all corners of the globe.
Let her feel like she’s special to you. That will do all the work of your fantastic profile in a lot less time than it takes to put that together. Your dating life will thank you.